How can you say that "skinny shaming" doesn't exist when there's plenty of girls out there that get mistaken for having eating disorders all the time? Getting told to eat a cheese burger, or asked if I'm going to throw that up later isn't an attack to you?
Okay please don’t get me wrong, I understand that the occasional negative comment on your weight is personally hurtful to you. I am in no way saying that you are not allowed to feel hurt or victimised by people who choose to be nasty about your weight/size, because you totally are.
You surely understand, however, that no matter how many times you are told to “eat a cheeseburger”, you can turn on any television channel, open any magazine, refresh any social media page, and see your body type upheld as ‘perfect’, ‘the picture of health’, ‘more attractive’ etc, whereas larger women often have to go out of their way to see their bodies portrayed in a positive light, rather than displayed as a ‘Before’ image in a weight loss ad, right?
Once again, I acknowledge my own thin privilege too, but that doesn’t mean I’m gonna get mad when Nicki Minaj writes a song for fat girls instead of for me, for once in my life.
I honestly don’t think that Anaconda contains body shaming.
For a start, I don’t think that ‘skinny shaming’ is a thing. I can come at this from both sides, by the way - I wear a size 0 but only because I’m short, I’m also curvy as fuck with big hips and a big butt, my boyfriend calls me ‘thick’ and I’d never ever claim to be thin/skinny but I definitely have thin privilege and can relate to the models and celebs that saturate our media. Just for a bit of personal context! Anyway, I genuinely do not believe in ‘skinny shaming’ because it’s the exact same shit as ‘reverse racism’ or ‘sexism against men’; it’s the preferred party within our society taking offence when something is about someone else for a change.
The lyrics people are getting up in arms about are,
Yeah, he love this fat ass/Yeah, this one is for my bitches with a fat ass in the fucking club/I said, where my fat ass big bitches in the club?/Fuck the skinny bitches, fuck the skinny bitches in the club/I wanna see all the big fat ass bitches in the motherfucking club/Fuck you if you skinny bitches WHAT?
I don’t find that offensive in the slightest and I don’t think Nicki is talking about all thin women. She’s not saying you can’t come into the club if you’re skinny, she’s saying her man likes her because she’s got a fat ass and he likes other women who also have fat asses, that’s what they’re personally into, personally looking for etc. She’s like, yo, all these skinny girls in the club are so glorified and praised all the damn time, but where is the appreciation for fat girls? That’s what I like to see in the club, fuck the skinny girls, I don’t wanna make space for them in this song when the entire world is a playground for them to be praised for being smaller every single day of their lives. Big ass girls don’t get that, here’s my song for big ass girls.
I’m cool with that.
You guys can cry about kink-shaming all you want but don’t you ever fucking tell me that there is nothing wrong with grown-ass adults fetishizing and sexualizing young children.
kiss me kiss me cover my body in love
by Tracey Emin
What r David Bowie & I staring at? U will never know.