More life lessons, because y’all have been asking - 
Go out and touch the world. Doesn’t matter where you live, whether it’s a metropolitan wasteland or the middle of a rainforest, I promise there is something worth touching, something worth sticking your hands into and getting a bit dirty. Don’t walk passively through life, actively engage in it by feeling what’s around you. Literally.
Sing when you feel like shit. Having an off day? Friends all out doing something cool and you weren’t invited? Fired? Whatever, if you feel like crying, sing instead - belt something out at the top of your lungs (my fave is Angels by Robbie Williams) and just keep singing until you either don’t feel like crying any more, or there are tears running down your face and you’re still putting music out into the universe. I guarantee, after five minutes you will feel ten times better.
If the singing is working, dance too. You never know, you might actually make yourself laugh.
Do not give unsolicited advice. Talk as much as you want on your own platforms about how you think people should do shit, but unless someone has specifically asked for your opinion, do not enter their space and address them personally. I keep seeing awesome babes receiving messages like, “Oh you’re so pretty, you could definitely improve your eyebrow game though!” which is the rudest shit ever, straight up. Unless a person asked you for your advice, they probably do not want it - it doesn’t matter if you think you’re being helpful, most people do not walk through their day to day lives wondering how they could most effectively change themselves to please those around them.
Take the time to truly look at your lovers. Memorise their faces, memorise the crease of their eyes when they’re doubled over with laughter; it’s the first step towards knowing what will make them laugh so you can do it again and again. Not only will you be able to recall their every expression at ease, you will get to know them so well, understand so much more about how they tick, that you will fall into an easy synchronicity that enriches relationships tenfold. Oh, and your lover is totally hot.
If you asked for it, take it. If you wanted constructive criticism, take it on. If you cheated on a test, be prepared to fail the course. If you signed up for extra hours at work, drink more coffee and shut up about being tired. Claim ownership of yourself, your life and your day to day actions - you have no idea how much better you’ll start feeling and acting once you hold yourself accountable.
Go swimming more often, I dare you. 
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More life lessons, because y’all have been asking - 
Go out and touch the world. Doesn’t matter where you live, whether it’s a metropolitan wasteland or the middle of a rainforest, I promise there is something worth touching, something worth sticking your hands into and getting a bit dirty. Don’t walk passively through life, actively engage in it by feeling what’s around you. Literally.
Sing when you feel like shit. Having an off day? Friends all out doing something cool and you weren’t invited? Fired? Whatever, if you feel like crying, sing instead - belt something out at the top of your lungs (my fave is Angels by Robbie Williams) and just keep singing until you either don’t feel like crying any more, or there are tears running down your face and you’re still putting music out into the universe. I guarantee, after five minutes you will feel ten times better.
If the singing is working, dance too. You never know, you might actually make yourself laugh.
Do not give unsolicited advice. Talk as much as you want on your own platforms about how you think people should do shit, but unless someone has specifically asked for your opinion, do not enter their space and address them personally. I keep seeing awesome babes receiving messages like, “Oh you’re so pretty, you could definitely improve your eyebrow game though!” which is the rudest shit ever, straight up. Unless a person asked you for your advice, they probably do not want it - it doesn’t matter if you think you’re being helpful, most people do not walk through their day to day lives wondering how they could most effectively change themselves to please those around them.
Take the time to truly look at your lovers. Memorise their faces, memorise the crease of their eyes when they’re doubled over with laughter; it’s the first step towards knowing what will make them laugh so you can do it again and again. Not only will you be able to recall their every expression at ease, you will get to know them so well, understand so much more about how they tick, that you will fall into an easy synchronicity that enriches relationships tenfold. Oh, and your lover is totally hot.
If you asked for it, take it. If you wanted constructive criticism, take it on. If you cheated on a test, be prepared to fail the course. If you signed up for extra hours at work, drink more coffee and shut up about being tired. Claim ownership of yourself, your life and your day to day actions - you have no idea how much better you’ll start feeling and acting once you hold yourself accountable.
Go swimming more often, I dare you. 
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More life lessons, because y’all have been asking - 

  • Go out and touch the world. Doesn’t matter where you live, whether it’s a metropolitan wasteland or the middle of a rainforest, I promise there is something worth touching, something worth sticking your hands into and getting a bit dirty. Don’t walk passively through life, actively engage in it by feeling what’s around you. Literally.
  • Sing when you feel like shit. Having an off day? Friends all out doing something cool and you weren’t invited? Fired? Whatever, if you feel like crying, sing instead - belt something out at the top of your lungs (my fave is Angels by Robbie Williams) and just keep singing until you either don’t feel like crying any more, or there are tears running down your face and you’re still putting music out into the universe. I guarantee, after five minutes you will feel ten times better.
  • If the singing is working, dance too. You never know, you might actually make yourself laugh.
  • Do not give unsolicited advice. Talk as much as you want on your own platforms about how you think people should do shit, but unless someone has specifically asked for your opinion, do not enter their space and address them personally. I keep seeing awesome babes receiving messages like, “Oh you’re so pretty, you could definitely improve your eyebrow game though!” which is the rudest shit ever, straight up. Unless a person asked you for your advice, they probably do not want it - it doesn’t matter if you think you’re being helpful, most people do not walk through their day to day lives wondering how they could most effectively change themselves to please those around them.
  • Take the time to truly look at your lovers. Memorise their faces, memorise the crease of their eyes when they’re doubled over with laughter; it’s the first step towards knowing what will make them laugh so you can do it again and again. Not only will you be able to recall their every expression at ease, you will get to know them so well, understand so much more about how they tick, that you will fall into an easy synchronicity that enriches relationships tenfold. Oh, and your lover is totally hot.
  • If you asked for it, take it. If you wanted constructive criticism, take it on. If you cheated on a test, be prepared to fail the course. If you signed up for extra hours at work, drink more coffee and shut up about being tired. Claim ownership of yourself, your life and your day to day actions - you have no idea how much better you’ll start feeling and acting once you hold yourself accountable.
  • Go swimming more often, I dare you. 

Anonymous asked:

Hi Daisy! I have anxiety (I've tried medication, CBT and such with no luck) and am currently having to make decisions about universities. I really don't know what I'm doing and I'm getting quite stressed about it. I wondered if you had any advice for people going through this? Thanks xx

Hey! I’m sorry your anxiety sucks :(

Honestly, I am not the right person to ask about uni decisions because I hate(d)my university, the campus, most of the people, the whole culture that surrounded it & I pretty much constantly tout it as the biggest mistake of my life, haha. In saying that, some of the influencing factors for me were the foreign exchange options and the courses within my particular degree - I’d advise you to have a deeper look into some of the majors/degrees you’re considering and read up on individual subjects, what sounds interesting to you, etc. Also think about why you want to go to university, because the answer to that question could definitely reflect the institution or the course that you choose! If for example you want prestige, choose the best school you can get into; if you want to make heaps of money after you graduate, look into business or engineering; if you want to learn about arts and culture and literature, find the best program for that!

At the end of the day, the thing about (most) university students is that we’re fucking babies. We’re 17-25 and we have the whole world at our feet. We get tricked into thinking uni is the path to the rest of the world but I’m not sure if I believe in that tbh.. Anyway, what I’m trying to say is that even if you make the wrong decision, you can change your mind later! You can switch majors or even transfer your credits to a new institution, you can take time off after your first year if you feel like it, you can go from studying full time to part time, you can fast track your degree and finish in two years if you overload on courses..

Higher education offers an enormous amount of autonomy and choice, so please don’t stress too much about getting it right straight away. 

Good luck. xo

Anonymous asked:

hi daisy! recently I slept with a very close friend who Id traveled far to visit. it wasn't the reason I had gone at all, and I'm so into the idea of a woman's sexual freedom;I don't think casual sex is bad at all. but since it happened (first time with someone I wasn't involved with)I feel awful and guilty and used and just really terribly about it. my friend and I are totally on the same page (thank god for being able to talk about it openly) but I still don't get why I feel so put off by it?

You’re about to get very upset with me because I’m going to be real with you for a second - I don’t fucking know why you feel like shit about it. Like, I have never met you in my life, I have no idea who you are, what you believe in or what cereal you eat in the morning, therefore to expect me to know why you’re not cool with a sexual choice you made is absolutely ridiculous. It’s like me asking you why I didn’t enjoy my cucumber sandwich today even though the picture on the menu looked totally delicious; how the hell are you supposed to know?

I will say one thing though, and that is that your choices do not define you. Whether you come to terms with the fact that you fucked your mate or not, you still did it, it’s still part of your history, part of your history that you consented to and probably enjoyed at the time, so get over it and move on. Maybe you don’t want to have casual sex again and that’s fine, it’s whatever. It was one hour out of your life (and that’s me being generous there) and now you have a million other hours in which to make choices that don’t involve sleeping with your friends. Yay! Life! Candlelit baths and new novels and singing when no-one is home! Woo! Don’t get so caught up in things that probably don’t matter at all, just learn from them, it’s what being a person is all about.

Andrew and I drove to Mount Tambourine on Tuesday, it’s about an hour away from our home in Brisbane and then a whole lotta walking through incredible hinterland, rainforest terrain and general lush Australian bush to get to gorgeous water holes, rockpools and waterfalls. I wasn’t informed until well over four hours into our expedition that there would definitely be eels living in the water, so by the time we got there I wasn’t into swimming at all, but Andrew did (and promptly got covered in hundreds of tiny baby leeches so I guess karma’s a bitch) - the view and the trek were absolutely incredible regardless and worth it 100x over. I made the decision a while ago to stop bitching about my current living circumstances (see: Queensland, Australia) and start getting to know what’s beautiful about this corner of the world instead. So far I’m doing a pretty good job, I reckon. 
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Andrew and I drove to Mount Tambourine on Tuesday, it’s about an hour away from our home in Brisbane and then a whole lotta walking through incredible hinterland, rainforest terrain and general lush Australian bush to get to gorgeous water holes, rockpools and waterfalls. I wasn’t informed until well over four hours into our expedition that there would definitely be eels living in the water, so by the time we got there I wasn’t into swimming at all, but Andrew did (and promptly got covered in hundreds of tiny baby leeches so I guess karma’s a bitch) - the view and the trek were absolutely incredible regardless and worth it 100x over. I made the decision a while ago to stop bitching about my current living circumstances (see: Queensland, Australia) and start getting to know what’s beautiful about this corner of the world instead. So far I’m doing a pretty good job, I reckon. 
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Andrew and I drove to Mount Tambourine on Tuesday, it’s about an hour away from our home in Brisbane and then a whole lotta walking through incredible hinterland, rainforest terrain and general lush Australian bush to get to gorgeous water holes, rockpools and waterfalls. I wasn’t informed until well over four hours into our expedition that there would definitely be eels living in the water, so by the time we got there I wasn’t into swimming at all, but Andrew did (and promptly got covered in hundreds of tiny baby leeches so I guess karma’s a bitch) - the view and the trek were absolutely incredible regardless and worth it 100x over. I made the decision a while ago to stop bitching about my current living circumstances (see: Queensland, Australia) and start getting to know what’s beautiful about this corner of the world instead. So far I’m doing a pretty good job, I reckon. 

My Instagram is a magical fun place full of waterfalls and tequila, come play! @daisylola

My Instagram is a magical fun place full of waterfalls and tequila, come play! @daisylola

Thankyou for always running my baths. Thankyou for making me laugh until I cry/snort/sit down because I need to wee myself. Thankyou for creating a loving home for us, a home where our artwork hangs on the walls, a home where I feel completely comfortable all of the time, a home where I am never embarrassed or scared, only loved and accepted. Thankyou for your passion. Thankyou for always straightening the back of my hair and making me endless cups of tea. Thankyou for buying my tampons and secretly hoping the other people in the store think you’re buying them for yourself. Thankyou for holding my hands in four countries so far and promising to hold them in so many more. Thankyou for cooking beautiful fresh dinners every night. Thankyou for your gentle nature. Thankyou for this and so much more, love of my life, my partner in crime and love and Pictionary - I will scratch your back and kiss your forehead until the day we die together.

Thankyou for always running my baths. Thankyou for making me laugh until I cry/snort/sit down because I need to wee myself. Thankyou for creating a loving home for us, a home where our artwork hangs on the walls, a home where I feel completely comfortable all of the time, a home where I am never embarrassed or scared, only loved and accepted. Thankyou for your passion. Thankyou for always straightening the back of my hair and making me endless cups of tea. Thankyou for buying my tampons and secretly hoping the other people in the store think you’re buying them for yourself. Thankyou for holding my hands in four countries so far and promising to hold them in so many more. Thankyou for cooking beautiful fresh dinners every night. Thankyou for your gentle nature. Thankyou for this and so much more, love of my life, my partner in crime and love and Pictionary - I will scratch your back and kiss your forehead until the day we die together.

My advice to you.

iloveyoulessthanpunk:

People are always asking me for my advice on life, and I have never understood why because I am just as new to this as anyone else – but still they ask so still I answer, and here and now, I tell. If I could tell you, reader, anything at all, if I could stand in front of you and tell you exactly how to live your life, this is what I would say;

Fall in love on a dirty mattress. Forget your shitty first impressions of one another and give it a shot. Throw out any and all opinions you’ve ever had of anyone and start completely fresh – speaking of fresh, only eat fresh fruit for the next few months. The next forever. Live off green tea punctuated by vodka shots and moonlit swims; find someone to drive all night and scream your favourite songs at the top of your lungs until you come across a body of water completely alien to you, remove your clothes and baby just dive in.

Read a book that makes you weep. Rip it up. Buy a new copy. Re-read, re-evaluate, highlight, come to an understanding of what makes you tick, as defined by the words of someone with whom you will never lock eyes. Come to an understanding of yourself; accept that it will change, but never ever compromise. Speaking of understanding – never “come out”. Never justify your sexuality or your love to anyone, never feel the need to explain it, simply be exactly who you are, come at life unashamed and those who are worth it will smile and know, as they always knew.

Wear your heart on a locket around your neck for all to see, but never let it get in the way of the more important things. These things are, health, career, friends and books, not necessarily in that order. Always remember to make up your own order. Go to the cinema by yourself. Masturbate in front of your lover. Offer to wash your best friend’s hair. Take disposable cameras everywhere and wait twelve months before developing the film. Dedicate one month of your life to saying ‘yes’ to everything you are asked – stick to it as if your life depends on it. Keep your plane tickets, lipstick stained napkins, notes from lovers scribbled on the back of ATM receipts, and glue them into a notebook to document your life. You can – and should – write it all down, but there’s nothing like having the solid proof in front of you, for when everything gets hazy to flick back to and know, yes, that was me, I lived that, I loved that, I am that.

Cry. Cry in the shower, cry on the train, when the tears start to flow never stifle them unless you are at work or in a nightclub – in both situations, if you need to cry, instead just dance. Dancing fixes everything, write that in permanent marker across your forearm during a bad week so you can look down and smile; even if you haven’t got it in you to dance quite yet remember the possibility. Remember the feeling of dancing, and the feeling of crying – if you are at home, dance as you cry, play the music that rips out your soul so loudly that the cars driving past wonder what’s happening. Realise that they will never know what’s happening and that’s okay too. It’s all okay, even when it’s not okay it’s going to be okay.

Call your mother. Pick flowers. Go on holiday. Sink your feet into the sand. Laugh.

Take from my advice what you will, copy every phrase into your journal word for word and pledge to never live another way, or toss it all into your mind’s waste paper basket and write me off as someone who knows less than nothing – either way (and all that’s in between) at least it will make you think. Consider your own options, consider how this world would look best for you, and consider exactly what space you would like to occupy within it. That is my advice to you.

Wrote this a long time ago, still relevant.